A Bridge to your Child's Beginnings is an invaluable workbook for international
adoptive parents wishing to document their children's early life for them.
A BRIDGE TO YOUR CHILDS BEGINNINGS
A Workbook for International Adoptive Families
by Cindy Probst, MEd, MSW, LCSW
New 3rd Edition
by Debra Samdperil
This is a great idea and you have done it beautifully.
I can recommend it to adoptive parents and children!
- T. Berry Brazelton, MD
Harvard Medical School
all adopted children report intense longing for information about their
early days or months. Cindy Probst has done a tremendous service to
adoptive parents and children alike with this sensitive and practical
guide to compiling information and writing about our childrens
lives before they joined our families.
By helping parents acknowledge the difficult emotions surfaced in this
process as well as by providing practical tips for how to document our
childrens first months even when little or no apparent information
exists, Probst will help a generation of children find some of the answers
to their questions. This is a book no adoptive family should be without.
- Susan Caughman
Editor and Publisher
Adoptive Families Magazine
(more reviews . . .)
About the Book
About the Author
Adoption Lifebook: A Bridge to Your Child's Beginnings is
a new, easy-to-read workbook for international adoptive parents and
waiting parents who wish to document their childrens early lives
for them, in the form of a lifebook. Through exercises and the text,
readers become more comfortable telling children the truth about their
beginnings while emphasizing their strengths and resilience.
Adoption specialist Cindy Probst guides parents through such topics
as talking with children about their birth parents and orphanage or
foster care experience, answering why was I adopted? questions,
and using empowering adoption language.
Adoption Lifebook: A Bridge to Your Child's Beginnings is
an invaluable resource for helping children feel good about who they
Cindy Probst, MEd, MSW, LCSW, believes that the stories of childrens
beginnings belong to them. She has a particular talent for framing difficult
truths in ways that are empowering to children, and for teaching their
parents to do the same.
Cindy works with parents to help them think about how to share the stories
of their children's early lives with them, in ways that nourish the
spirit, while also honoring the truth.
Cindy, an adoption specialist formerly at Concord Family and Youth Services
in Massachusetts, is also an adoptive parent.
Purchase the Book
Contact the Author
Adoption Lifebook: A Bridge to Your Childs Beginnings
3rd Edition (Softcover, 88 pages, 2007, $14.95) by Cindy Probst can
be purchased at
Barnes & Noble
other places where adoption books are found.
A portion of proceeds from the sale of the book is donated to international
For more information about Adoption Lifebook: A Bridge to Your
Childs Beginnings or to make arrangements
for a lifebook workshop in your area, contact email@example.com
or Boston Adoption Press, P.O. Box 623, Boston, MA 02134.
Thank you so much for a WONDERFUL workshop. I feel so blessed
to have attended. I feel as if some of the weight that I was carrying
in my heart has been transformed into a basket of feathers... I feel
lighter... I feel as if I have increased skills to help Mia on her journey.
When I connect with how to reframe a situation that seems painful or
hurtful, I am so thankful. Life is easier.
You have a loving and sweet approach which is full of skill and experience.
I have received a few emails and people LOVED the workshop and report
that they are putting what they learned into action already.......which
I can also report.
What is a Lifebook?
Additional Resources and Links
parents hold in their hearts precious bits of information about the
earliest days, months, or years of their childrens lives, before
they joined their families. Parents understand this information to be
invaluable to their children, yet wonder how to share it with them.
Is it all right to tell her she was abandoned?
Do I need to talk about her birth parents? If so, how?
Can I stretch the truth or leave out painful truths?
What can I say when I know so little?
Lifebooks allow us to share the facts, however few we have, sensitively
and honestly, to help our children understand their beginnings. Through
the process of creating lifebooks, parents become more confident sharing
the truth while emphasizing their childrens strengths and resilience.
To learn more about Cindy's lifebook sessions for Families with Children
from China, go to www.fccne.org
Cindy will be speaking and signing books at the annual spring conference
of the Adoption Community of New England (www.adoptioncommunityofne.org).
Ethiopian Kids Community – www.ethiopiankids.com
Families for Russian and Ukrainian Adoption – www.frua.org
Families with Cambodian Children – www.famcam.org
Families with Children from China - www.fwcc.org
Families with Children from Vietnam – www.fcvn.org
Guatemala Adoptive Families Network – www.guatefam.org
Korean American Adoptee Adoptive Family Network - www.kaanet.com
Latin American Parents Association - www.lapa.com
Our Chinese Daughters Foundation (www.ocdf.org) is a non-profit foundation
that supports families with children adopted from China.
Adoptive Families (www.AdoptiveFamilies.com),
is an award-winning national adoption magazine, and a leading adoption
information source for families before, during, and after adoption.
See book excerpt and review in May/June 2002 issue.
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I am so glad that there is now an easy-to-use guide for families
to make their specifically international lifebook. Cindys approach
is warm and supportive, while imparting a wealth of knowledge about
adoption and child development. This will be a valuable tool for adoptive
families for many years to come.
- Joan Clark
ODS Adoption Community of New England Inc.
Sensitive, thorough, and extremely useful. This workbook is a
superb resource for international adoptive families and waiting families.
The author's detailing of the process of preparing a lifebook is invaluable
to parents in becoming more comfortable and articulate talking to their
children about difficult or unknown parts of their adoption story.
-Janet Surrey, PhD
Stone Center, Wellesley College
Adoptive parents recognize the importance of recording,
preserving and talking to their child about their early history but
often express a loss about how to do it. Ms. Probsts step-by-step
guide does a lovely job of explaining how each piece contributes to
their childs sense of worth and well being.
- Carole Stiles, ACSW
Vice President of Social Services
Holt International Children's Services
This great framework helps to breakdown the emotional
barriers that many adoptive parents face when helping their children
piece together their stories. It is my hope that Adoption Lifebook:
A Bridge to Your Childs Beginnings is a bestseller because
I want nothing more than for adoptive parents to help their children
feel good about who they are and where they came from. This workbook
certainly helps all of us do just that.
- Cindy Johnson
Adoptive Families Today, Illinois
Are you stuck on doing a lifebook? Or scared to
start a conversation about adoption with your child? Cindy Probsts
fabulous book, Adoption Lifebook: A Bridge to Your Childs Beginnings,
will inspire you to find the right path for you and your child. Cindys
honest, compassionate book, with suggestions from the hundreds of parents
who have attended her seminars, is a wise guide that enables parents
to address adoption issues while strengthening a child's self image.
- Shanti Fry, President
Families with Children from China-New England and the Foundation for
Cindy Probst has crafted a sensitive and fact-filled
guide to lifebooks which will be of immeasurable help to adoptive families.
- Mary Sullivan, Chair
Families for Russian and Ukrainian Adoption
New England Chapter
Cindy Probst has provided a workbook for international
adoptive families to help them create a meaningful lifebook from the
perspective of the child. KAAN is happy to share this resource with
its families of Korean-born children.
- Chris Winston, Chair
Korean American Adoptee Adoptive Family Network
book skillfully addresses many of the difficult issues that arise when
one begins the creative task of writing a lifebook for the internationally
adopted child. I look forward to sharing this book with friends.
- Kim DeAndrade
Guatemala Family Network
Create a gift that your adopted child will treasure for years
to come with this thoughtful and practical guide. Adoption Lifebook
propels you step by step through the writing process, integrating their
adoption history into your childs unique story.
- Allison Martin
Families with Children from Vietnam
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